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Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby owningeverything » Tue Jul 05, 2011 5:37 pm

So, recently, I’ve worked out this pact with my G/F to help me get skinny. She tries to help me with my food consumption… But recently, its been annoying. We’ll be out with our friends and she starts slapping my hands if I eat too much, or she will say off-the-cusp things while I am ordering and it’s beginning to make me hate her a little, due to my gluttony. I’ve seriously considered just breaking up with her because of it. I’ve started watching Rocco’s new show on bravo and it’s helping… a little… hopefully things get better when I win the Watch and Win contest but, I heard tonight hes bringing on a few workout experts like Joe Dowdell to give some advice. Is this a good direction to head? Or has anyone else had this same thing happen to them?
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby DB » Tue Jul 05, 2011 7:48 pm

Are we talking about habitually over eating? Like comfort food and eating when nervous or something like that? Or just not knowing how to properly set portion size without having any real emotional attachment to eating, per se? Get real honest with yourself when you answer, because the routes to dealing with the problem can be vastly different.
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby vegan hal » Tue Jul 05, 2011 8:00 pm

i don't understand the TV reference. but why not just tell her to ease up. you're both adults.
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby owningeverything » Wed Jul 06, 2011 2:43 pm

Well, it stems from a bit deeper ideal. Her father has diabetes and she doesn't want me to go through something similar and start to gain health complications from overeating...

@DB.... its a bit of everything you said, I like to eat, and I probably have emotional attachment or some sort of chemical/biological addiction to eating, eating unhealthy foods, and being the first to finish. (Although this could just come from my desire to eat my meal first, so I can go back for more before it all runs out... I notice that if there is a group serving, like pizza or something, I try to eat quickly so I can get more pizza than everyone else--before it runs out) -- Then again I've always thought this came from a past experience in my childhood where my mom would always make me feel good when I was apart of the "Clean plate club" -- I would feel a sense of pride. That, and being from the south, I have had countless friend's mothers, tell me to "Eat up" because I am a "Growing boy."

@Vegan Hal-- the T.V. reference comes from a recent health conscious initiative the G/F and I have managed to agree on. We are growing our own herbs and spices in our garden, watching Rocco Dispirito's new show on Bravo, which reminds me its on at 10PM tonight (Gotta tivo it) and following along with his book. My G/F found out about it through a friend and it is a baby step for me to start thinking healthier and in a better direction. So, this agreement we've come to, to have her help me stop eating so much bad stuff, all comes from all of this.

Am I messed up? I know I don't want to keep failing her or myself, but its a large lifestyle change for me.
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby DB » Wed Jul 06, 2011 6:28 pm

That's what I'm talking about. Those causes behind the actions. It looks to me like there's more there to dig up and examine. Once the need to be first to finish is gone and the need to clean your plate, etc. the rest will fall much easier into place. Might be easier said than done, but well worth the effort. Sounds like the girlfriend's heart is in the right place even if her methods bug you. Maybe she can change her tactic and approach the situation in a different manner. Of course, she would have to know the REASONS you eat as you do, which would require that you first know exactly why you eat as you do.
Some experimentation may be necessary to find an approach that suits you both. Be thoroughly honest with yourself and her. If what she is doing is driving you nuts, you need to let her know. Nicely, of course.
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby RorschachSoy » Wed Jul 06, 2011 7:17 pm

Communication is so important. It's great that you're untangling your feelings; if you feel comfortable, share those reasons with your gf. You must tell her that the slapping thing is bothering you; to me it seems very controlling and patronizing. It's great that she wants to help, but she needs to let you make your own food choices and not try to control what you eat, as it will only make both of you more stressed.
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Re: Swatting Girl, NEED ADVICE!

Postby picaresque » Fri Aug 05, 2011 1:45 am

dump her.
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