On the original topic: I would be happy to talk to former vegans... especially if I don't know them well.
Unfortunately, the folks who've "fallen" seem to be former friends on mine from HS and college well over 15 years ago. I don't see them often, and veganism, ethics, or health is rarely a topic that comes up. We spend our time just trying to catch up and rekindle old bonds. Luckily, at least 2 friends from long-ago have gone back to veganism... but i'm one of three who's stayed with it for the last decade or so.
I can sympathize with vegans who don't switch out shoes or wallets right away.
However, I could not do that. I decided to go vegan on a unplanned whim a summer day just before lunch. That afternoon, I got rid of my leather shoes, and found a pair of old beat up canvas sneakers and I wore those sneakers for the next 8 months until I got more variety.
I really don't get what's so hard about getting non-leather shoes right away. You just need one pair to make it for a few months.
...but everyone is different. Going vegan was really really easy for me. It isn't for many people, as is testament by 80% of my friends who dropped veganism in the last decade.
"The worker has the right to leave his boss, but can she do it? And if she does quit him, is it in order to lead a free life; where she will have no master but herself? No, she leaves to sell herself to another employer. She's driven by the same hunger. Thus the worker's liberty is only a theoretical freedom, lacking any means of realization; an utter falsehood."