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Postby JohnBarleycorn » Tue Apr 07, 2009 1:06 pm

emm7 wrote:
seasiren wrote:People like her live every day in their own kind of hell.... they get theirs in the end.


CORRECT they are intensely unhappy and insecure and empty people which is why they do it. Apparently a large proportion of them were abused as children, although some of them were not. I believe there is a Genetic component to it too.

Sounds like they are twice as likely to stalk a man rather than another woman.

Typically, the perpetrators were Caucasian, heterosexual, single women with a mean age of 35 (ranging from 18–58 years old). Often, these women did not have children. They appeared to be educated, with a large majority having graduated from high school and a solid minority having achieved a college or graduate degree. Their intelligence may have allowed them to be more successful in pursuing their victims.

Reports of substance abuse were not common, but about one-third of women used substances while stalking. Available data suggested the presence of Axis I and II disorders. Twenty percent of those with Axis I disorders were diagnosed with delusional disorder. The most common Axis II diagnosis was borderline personality disorder (n=10 of 22). Antisocial personality disorder was not diagnosed in any of the women. Despite incomplete data, there appeared to be a high rate of sexual (n=18 of 40) and physical (n=12 of 40) abuse in the personal histories of the female stalkers, which may have predisposed these women to the development of borderline personality characteristics or posttraumatic stress disorder.

A great majority of the victims of female stalkers were known to them, either as acquaintances, former lovers, or family members. However, one-fifth of the victims were completely unknown to their stalkers. Frequent reasons for stalking included anger, obsession, feelings of abandonment, loneliness, and dependency. Usual stalking behaviors included telephone calls and messages, giving letters and gifts, driving by the victim’s location, trespassing, and following the victim. More than half of the women threatened their victims, and a quarter were physically violent, with three victims losing their lives to their stalkers. Most episodes of violence, however, did not involve the use of a weapon and did not result in injuries. Violence was more likely if the stalker and the victim had been previously sexually intimate. In more than half of the cases, the behavior increased in frequency and intensity. The victims were usually Caucasian, heterosexual males with a mean age of 41 (ranging from 16–68 years). Female victims were targeted one third of the time. The perpetrators pursued their victims for an average of 22 months.


She is certainly a very unhappy person. Thats obvious, and confirmed by her former friends.

From the above, it seems I am the exact, mean, typical victim of a stalker. Nice to be normal !
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Postby emm7 » Tue Apr 07, 2009 2:32 pm

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"she was my better half and I was just a dog"
"I don't have a drinking problem except when I can't get a drink"
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And some guy's trying to sell me a watch"
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Postby Gelert » Tue Apr 07, 2009 2:54 pm

Emm, maybe this isn't the time or place for speculation about this kind of thing, if this person has eyes on this thread :wink:

Sometimes well meant stuff can be like petrol on a bonfire.

I think we get the message; if someone signs up to slag off JBC, we should give that person a warm welcome. I hope JBC also gets the message of us wishing him the best of luck and support in dealing with this problem.
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Postby emm7 » Tue Apr 07, 2009 3:00 pm

yes Gelert you are right, I don't want to put ideas in this person's head, I will delete what I wrote!
"she was my better half and I was just a dog"
"I don't have a drinking problem except when I can't get a drink"
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And some guy's trying to sell me a watch"
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Postby Big Good Wolf » Tue Apr 07, 2009 6:58 pm

Hi John. I only just caught up on this thread after my computer packed up on Saturday.
I think I'm the closest VF member to you and also the only one to have met you and your dogs.
If there's anything I can do to help, just ask.
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Postby JohnBarleycorn » Tue Apr 07, 2009 9:29 pm

Big Good Wolf wrote:Hi John. I only just caught up on this thread after my computer packed up on Saturday.
I think I'm the closest VF member to you and also the only one to have met you and your dogs.
If there's anything I can do to help, just ask.


Thanks, BGW !

Thats very helpful !

You'll scare anyone ! :lol:
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Postby Dave Noisy » Wed Apr 08, 2009 6:53 pm

Sorry you got to deal with this nutter...i hope it's wrapped up quickly, and she's sent away to whatever mental institution deals with her psychosis....grrrr.....
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Postby seitan » Wed Apr 08, 2009 7:16 pm

Johnboy74 wrote::shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
That is beyond belief! I'm in shock after reading that John! That must be a massive strain on your everday living! She needs medical attention and fast! And you need to be carefeul too! Good luck with that one!

medical attention? like the stuff they do in switzerland but not here? ;-)
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Postby emm7 » Sun Apr 26, 2009 7:08 am

JBC hasn't posted in a while, has anyone heard from him recently?
"she was my better half and I was just a dog"
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Postby Big Good Wolf » Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:45 pm

No. I've been to his house but I don't know his address or phone number.
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Postby Konstantin » Sun Apr 26, 2009 5:03 pm

JBC - just discoverd this thread and am really sorry for this crap. Terrible! Stay cool and dont play silly games with this piece of shit, now the law's involved do the right thing and let her damn herself. Can't believe people are this bad!

Stay around and let s know how you are dude, if it's easier and you don't want her to know you're here, just register like you're a new person and hang around, good to have you whether we know its you or not.
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Postby helmut » Wed Apr 29, 2009 12:05 pm

eeek!! JBC how scary!! i wish you the best of luck in dealing with this person! i hope you dont have to deal with this for much longer :S
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Postby Konstantin » Wed May 27, 2009 11:24 am

Big Good Wolf wrote:No. I've been to his house but I don't know his address or phone number.


Any chance you could drop in? We haven't heard from him for a while now.

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Postby fredrikw » Wed May 27, 2009 12:17 pm

I talked to him a couple of weeks ago. He hasn't had much time to visit VF, been busy training, working and dealing with this shit. Hopefully he'll be back soon to tell us more about it.
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Postby AbFab » Wed May 27, 2009 12:44 pm

I haven't been on here much recently so missed all this.

JBC, really hope things are ok with you. Please let us know.

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