i agree that condoms are not nice, especially in long term relationships. and condoms break easily.
my friend is having a child soon, because she didn't use condom while having her periods.
for me veganism is somehow "just" an ideal, so i wouldn't worry about gelatin (in sticks, or in day-after-pills) if the alternative is a higher risk to get pregnat (..and have a child, or do an abortion).
when i was younger i was taking pills. personally i had no problems because of hormons, and i wasn't worrying much about lactose (or animal testing), because i was always thinking that the other alternative would be to get pregnant. well, i'm not thinking like that anymore. but now the main thing i would be worrying about pills is that the hormons have really bad effects in natural ecosystems. for example, some male fish have female"things" (sorry i don't know which word is a right one) as well, and this is said to be because of hormons in urea of the women who are on a pill.
"persona" sounds good